Ask A Black Chick Podcast Ep.3: Why Are Black Women So Damn Angry?

What’s Happening

Issa Rae the new face of CoverGirl!

My cousin in my head is now the face of CoverGirl and I am so happy for her. Issa is hilarious and damn beautiful. You go girl!

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Fenty Beauty is Killing It!

Fenty Beauty is killing the make up industry and has other mainstream brands shook. Take a look at how the other brands are trying to switch it up.

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Kenneka Jenkins

Such a terrible story about a young, beautiful 19 year old girl that was killed and put in the freezer of a hotel in the basement. Read more updates here.

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This Week’s Question

“Hi. I have a question in regards to the “angry black woman” stereotype. But first, i should mention that i am a second generation american woman, born of Mexican parents, so I am pretty familiar with everything that is wrong with taking stereotypes too seriously. for one, i may look very Mexican but culturally I’m really not. having said that though, I do recognize that at times of extreme discomfort/awkwardness, especially when I am in the racial minority, i can come across as fitting into those very demeaning stereotypes (submissive). I’ve thought about this, and talked it over with some friends, and i think it might be what i think of as a cultural defense mechanism. sort of like reverting to basic coping behaviors that I picked up from my parents, when I experience social stress.. so… back to my question. i admit that my interactions with black (and really non-Mexican) culture is limited, but i have noticed that some, definitely not all, black women that i work with come across as angry and defensive in a way that is more aggressive than other women and men (black or not) I work with. i am wondering if perhaps this is a defense mechanism as well? I say this because I have also noticed that as I get to know these women, the anger/defensiveness has decreased to the point where after a couple of minutes of interaction it stops altogether. The funny thing is that it matters whether I approach them or they approach me. If I approach them, then they behave aggressively before I say anything, but if they approach me, then everything is fine. I think I can understand why this may happen, especially since black women and men are the super minority where I work, but I still struggle with the tension that I experience whenever I need to approach them about something. In any case, I am not assuming that I know anything for sure, I guess I am just curious to know if you have any insight into whether or not there is any cultural significance to my observations. Thanks!”


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One comment

  1. I’ll definitely plug into the other 2 podcasts ASAP. This was the best hour of my day. It really resonates with me, and it’s so astounding (and unfortunate) that 2 Black women in two different countries have parallel experiences pertaining to everything from the futile dating scene (where ARE these brothers looking for their queens?!) to the notion of the angry black woman.
    Your voice is like honey in this dry, tumble were rural small, racist town I live in. You’ve managed to hit the nail. You’re definitely a gifted speaker.
    I’m tired of whispering like a mouse and I feel the tension in the playground. White women don’t want to create that dialogue because they think we are aggressive. The only thing that gets me angry is that I can’t get away from people thinking I’m innately a hostile Black woman when maybe I’m just PMSing or this dude I’ve been texting hasn’t hit me up in a few days.
    Can’t wait for the next one!!!

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