#AskABlackChick: Are Black & White Women Afraid to Initiate a Friendship?

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Jessica-Brittany says

 

Making friends across color lines is never something I’ve consciously thought of when making friends. I was fortunate enough to grow up in a diverse town which meant it was in the norm to have friends that were different from what you yourself identified as. I build relationships built on shared interests: music, art, etc., if I can find common ground there, that’s my jumping off point!

I build relationships built on shared interests: music, art, etc., if I can find common ground there, that’s my jumping off point!

While I can understand the trepidation on both sides, I think it’s important to realize that the fear felt purely is a result of not knowing. And you’ll never know if you don’t try. Realize that there may be a lot of misconceptions on both sides and that if you go into the relationship realizing there is room for you to learn and grow (as with all relationships,) all will be well!


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Nicole Brown Says

My experience with making friends over the racial lines has been quite easy. I was always in situations where the crowd was mixed and I was confident in my value as a friend. However, I do think that there is a fear of being rejected, in general. I would encourage people to look at the person, as far as their personality is concerned rather than their race.

I do think that there is a fear of being rejected, in general. I would encourage people to look at the person, as far as their personality is concerned rather than their race.

There must be a reason you want to be friends with that person so connect with them on that common ground. Isn’t forming a friendship worth a little risk? If you do get rejected then you get rejected! Yes, rejection is painful,  but it happens to everyone in some type of way. You would have the satisfaction of knowing that YOU are not the issue but that their bias is.  You would have made an effort towards a genuine connection and not be stuck wondering what-if!

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