HELL NO! excuse me, excuse me! I just got really excited. I am going to try to keep this short because if I don’t, I am going to go on and on. So, last week, I came across this Ebony.com article that was commenting on this blog post written by a white woman and featured on CurlyNikki.com. The author of the Ebony article was basically saying that it was appalling to think that it is acceptable to include white women in a movement where we, black women, are trying to accept ourselves. For centuries, we have been trying to achieve what they have and meet their standards of beauty so why would it make any sense to throw them into our deeply personal revolution?
I then went and scanned the article that the woman, named Sarah, wrote about her “natural hair”. The interview went on as it normally would with any other natural woman interview. It included her natural hair type, her hair crush, products, and all of that. She didn’t really talk about the blatantly obvious.
After reading both articles, calming myself, and having a quiet moment to think, I arranged my thoughts about this situation into a few bullet points to avoid rambling.
- Isn’t the natural hair movement supposed to be about breaking away from the white, American standard of beauty and deciding for ourselves as individuals, black individuals, what beauty really is?
- Or is this really all just a facade? Are we all playing like we love our hair but really we are just begging for acceptance still?
- This is exactly why the natural hair movement drives me crazy. I love my hair and what going natural has done for me and so many other women I know and see. But we are still so lost. We push to the front the women with unfathomable hair that is not the norm while women with kinkier, or more comparable hair waddle in the background somewhere.
- I fear that the natural hair movement will be diluted down to simply a business or some sort of come up.
- I have lost respect and trust in Curly Nikki and question her motives from this day forward. I will leave it at that.
- Did she say her hair was a 3c? Chick what?
- We are clearly on a hamster wheel and don’t even know it.
- This article/blog post written by Sarah did nothing for me. I have nappy hair. Her hair is not nappy. Or even close to it. White women and black women have completely different hair types, generally. Go pick up a bottle of shampoo for white women, which shouldn’t be hard to find. And then go pick up a bottle of Shea Moisture. White women deal with greasiness in their hair while black women, especially naturals, battle severe dryness and breakage due to it. Go try to get your natural hair done at a white salon. Good luck. I’m sure Sarah can.
- It is not that I don’t want white people, or any other race, to be a part of ours. But, we are in recovery. We are learning to love ourselves again. We are on a journey and many of us hit huge bumps along the way. The last thing we need is loose curl Sarah coming on the scene as a natural hair vlogger telling us what we need to do to love our hair. It goes beyond just hair. That is something Sarah will never understand. I see people with her hair type on television, getting jobs, carrying on about life like nothing is the matter. We are still on that journey and need to see other black women on that journey with us creating solidarity. It is like being morbidly obese (that’s us) and deciding to lose weight. But, not to exactly be skinny. More so to be healthy and comfortable in your own skin. Suddenly your naturally thin, hot, Rihanna friend (that’s Sarah) says that she is having some personal weight complexes and wants to join you on your journey. You’d say, hold on Rihanna! Can I learn to love myself first without having to deal with you.
- Sarah, and any other white women dealing with curly hair problems, is more than welcome to visit natural hair sites and vlogs for hair tips. However, it is unfair to become an authority in our community. We finally have something we are proud of. Let us be great, please!
- This video commentary on the topic sums up my thoughts perfectly with a lot more cursing though.
- What are your thoughts on this?