Is there a ‘good hair’ trend emerging in the natural hair community?
Lately, I am noticing more and more how divided the natural hair community is becoming. While there is solidarity among naturals because we all understand where we started and where we are trying to go, there is this little, nagging division that seems to be emerging.
First, let me start by saying when my hair was chemically straightened, I had a certain way of viewing my hair. The longer, straighter, easier to manage, the better. I wanted to be able to throw my butt length locks in a pony tail and then let it down as it blew in the wind. That, of course, never happened. When I initially went natural, my desires changed a bit. I wanted big, long, and defined curls. That was my success point. Please take note that I didn’t mention healthy hair or accepting the kinks that sprouted from my scalp. I wanted long curls– period!
When I look at the growing natural hair community, I notice two things. One, the community is growing and women that would have never considered going natural are rocking their afro puffs with pride and it sincerely swells my heart with love! Two, there is a hierarchy forming that is not so pleasant. Women with long, defined curls with silky like textures are regarded as having ‘good hair’ while naturals with kinky, tightly coiled fros that do not hold curls are alright but most certainly not preferred. While it is perfectly acceptable to have a preference in regards to your hair type, I fear that this hierarchy will deter women from embarking on a natural journey for fear that their hair will not meet lofty expectations of having ‘good hair’. I constantly; they instead have ‘nappy coarse hair’. Natural hair, all textures, lengths, and curl patterns, are beautiful. We all went natural to get in touch with our original state; be it kinky, curly, soft, or coarse. One hair type is no better than the other and as a community, we need to rally behind that so that in 3 years, perms are a thing of the past. Natural hair is all about self-love and that has to be remembered and practiced above everything.
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